Fear of Failure is one of the biggest hurdles that restrict us from living our life to the fullest.
We all experience failure in our life at some point and obviously nobody enjoys failure. But, yes, you can take a lesson from it.
Fear is common but if we don’t overcome it, it holds a major part of our full potential. It restricts our brain to work at its full potential as fear give rise to undue stress.
Fear of failure makes us more prone to stay in a comfortable zone and we can’t progress in life staying in a safe place. Hence, takes us far away from our goals.
So, it is crucial to overcome this fear of failure in order to live a happy life and achieve our goals. But, let’s first consider the cause of this fear.
Causes of Fear of Failure
Fear of failure arises either when you try to do something new or when you already had a bad experience in the same thing.
“Failure doesn’t kill you… it increases your desire to make something happen.” —Kevin Costner
Your fear of failure can have many causes. But the one thing we must focus on is that you are not born with this fear. Rather you acquired this with your different experiences afterward.
Even most of us get trained to afraid of failure. You may wonder how silly is this?
But, yes this is true. Let me simplify it.
When we were in school, every time we perform well we get appreciation. But, what happened when you performed poorly in academics?
Most probably, you got punished or you get scolded by your parents or by your teachers.
This is the point where we started to fear failure.
Another reason can be self-doubt. When you start doubting yourself, somewhere you are inviting negative beliefs to take over your mind. You experience more envy which results in feeling bad about you and hence, it erodes your self-confidence.
And, when you are not even confident about yourself and your skills, then how will you confront your fear.
Achieving perfectionism is also one of the main causes of fear of failure. Because people often compare perfectionism with high ambitions or standards and due to which they rarely accomplish a task. Due to which they start to fear failure.
But the good thing is that we overcome this fear of failure with the ways given below.
How to overcome this fear?
11 effective ways to overcome this failure are explained below:
- Identify your Fear of Failure
Identifying your fear of failure helps you to know the root cause and negative belief behind this.
Next time you encounter such a situation, breathe deeply, and observe your thoughts and negative beliefs. Try to find where does this fear starts from?
Brainstorm a list of such thoughts. Now, be specific about this list and you will observe that most of the problems are due to your overthinking. And, there is very little chance of them to happen.
This way you will gain some confidence and can confront your fears.
- Crystal Clear Goals
There are times when you don’t even know what it takes to acquire your goals. And, hence your fear of failure arises in your mind.
So, make your goals crystal clear. Don’t get confused about them.
Ask yourself: What exactly you want to achieve in life? How you are going to achieve this? What skills or things it requires to reach there?
This will make your vision clear about your goals and help you to create a roadmap to achieve your goals.
For this, you can make use of SMART Goals setting.
After making your goal crystal clear in your mind, try to find the hurdles you may need to face. Obviously, you cannot predict all of them but at least some of them are obvious.
Suppose you are going to join a software company and you only know the basics of Java Language (or any other language). So, it’s better to start mastering Java.
If you are going to start a business, gain some theoretical and practical knowledge from the internet as well as from the market. Try to find the proper procedure and permissions require initiating your startup, where to buy the essential material for your business, etc.
This way you will be prepared for the coming hurdle and will try to tackle the situation instead of getting afraid.
- Positive Thinking
Fear of failure is linked with so many unnecessary thoughts and negative beliefs. Also, your outlook becomes a negative one which creates undue pressure on you and limits your brain to work at its full potential.
But, with positive thinking, your brain works at its full potential. You become more productive which helps you to work efficiently and grow in life.
“If you learn from defeat, you haven’t really lost.” —Zig Ziglar
And, this way you acquire a growth mindset which helps you to confront your fears instead of running from them.
- Find the lesson
Failure is a part of success.
Every successful people have one thing common and that is to face the failure. Successful people take every failure as a new lesson and use them as a stair to success. They don’t consider it a setback.
Failure is also the best teacher. Whenever you encounter a failure, try to find what you can learn from this.
Take a lesson from every failure and adjust your strategy for the next time. This way you will be more productive as well as your mindset about failure changes.
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” —Thomas A. Edison
See, those who fear failure hardly accomplish their goals as you are even afraid to come out of your comfort zone and give it a try.
- Sit with your fear
Rushing towards something new with a lack of preparation has more chances of falling down. So, it’s better to sit with your fear for a few minutes and think; what is the main cause of your fear? Why you can’t go through this?
Gain some knowledge and be comfortable with it. This helps you to be confident and confront your fear effectively.
- Talk about your fear
Most people think if they share their fear with someone, they will be considered as a weak person. But, talking about your fear with your close friend or family member will help you to overcome this. Because they can give you a better solution or they can refer you to somebody who can help you with this.
Sharing your fear also helps you to let go of unnecessary thoughts and negative beliefs from your mind. You will have a better vision of your problem and hence, now you can tackle it effectively.
- Self Compassion
Some people keep torturing themselves for some bad experience encountered in past. Due to which, they experience more envy and hence, feel worse about themselves. This results in eroding self-confidence. And, they try to avoid the same thing in the present due to a bad experience in past.
So, be kind to yourself and embrace your good things. Make a note of your achievements and remind yourself that you can achieve more.
A few bad experiences in past cannot decide your future. So, let go of your past and focus on the present.
- Avoid Perfectionism
Perfectionism is one of the main causes of your failure.
People who want to do everything perfectly often obsessed with the fear of failure.
“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.” —J. K. Rowling
Such people compare perfectionism with high ambition due to which they rarely finish the task. So instead of attaining perfectionism, try to accomplish your task as per your best knowledge.
- You can’t control everything
It is very important to understand that you can’t control everything. There some things which are beyond your reach and you can’t do anything about them.
So, instead of focusing on things you cannot control, try to focus on things that you can control. Do your best and let the thing happen that you cannot control.
- At least give it a try
Tony Robbins says, “No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow your progress, you’re still ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.”
When you fear failure, you tend to stay in your comfort zone. And you cannot make progress in your life staying in your comfort zone.
When you try, you come out of your comfort zone and face the real situation. Whether you succeed or fail in your first try, you will notice that it is not that hard as you considered it in imagination.
“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” — Michael Jordan
Keep in mind that fear holds you back and ask yourself: what will happen if I fail or made a mistake? Obviously nobody is going to kill you. Nobody is perfect and neither you can be.
So get up and keep trying until you succeed.
It is very important to overcome your fear of failure as it does not let you progress in life.
You cannot accomplish your goals with the fear of trying new things or repeating the same thing again due to failure. So, overcome your fear by confronting them. The situation comes and goes, and once you face it, your fear will also go away with this situation.
Keep trying and you will accomplish your goals.