Positive self-talk and Negative self-talk are two types of self-talk. Here in this blog we will dig deeper into them and will see how positive self-talk is beneficial? And, how to cultivate more positive self-talk?
As its name signifies, self-talk means talking to yourself. Self-talk is your inner voice that keeps running in your head. Hardly there is a moment when nothing is running your mind. Self-talk reveals your thoughts, concerns, and your overall personality.
It depends on your thinking whether you are doing positive self-talk or negative self-talk. If you thinking positively, then you will be doing positive self-talk. And, if you are pessimistic in nature and involved in negative thinking, then you are doing negative self-talk.
Let’s take a short look at both types of self-talk.
Positive self-talk is encouraging and hopeful. It makes you feel good about all that you have. You focus on the bright side of the situation and learn from your bad experiences instead of feeling upset the whole time about them.
Negative self-talk is distressing and you always focus on the darker side of the situation. You keep thinking that “you are not capable enough to achieve success and you are only a failure.”
That way, you only feed negativity to your mind. Mostly, these talks happen because of some bad experience in the past or because of over thinking.
How is it beneficial?
Here are some of the prime benefits of positive self-talk:
- Several studies have found that positive people have a healthy life as compared to pessimists.
- Researches also suggest that people with positive self-talk are more efficient, have better problem-solving and decision-making skills, and better mental strength.
- Positive self-talk provides an overall positive outlook and helps you to tackle the failures effectively.
- There are many health benefits also as reduced stress, better self-satisfaction, and better cardiovascular health.
- Even it provides athletes with endurance and motivation to workout.
How to practice Positive Self-talk?
If you think negatively more often, then you can practice twisting negative self-talk towards positive ones. Here is a list of ways that can help you shift your inner dialogues:
- Identify Negative Self-talk:
There are times when you experience the most negative self-talk, analyze such times. And, keep those times in your mind so that you can prepare yourself for such scenarios. It will help you to be more aware of such situations and avoid negative self-talks.
That way, you can put a break on your negative self-talk and can twist your inner dialogues into positive ones.
- Find ways to laugh:
Laughter is the best medicine to relieve stress and tension. So, find humor in your daily life to boost your positive self-talk.
Like you can watch funny videos, some funny series or cartoon whenever you have some time. By doing so, you will feel less stressed and will be happier.
- Surround yourself with Positive People:
Maybe you had also felt it that whenever you are around positive people, you feel more positive in life. You absorb their positivity.
There is a saying, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
Being with positive people helps you to keep the negativity in minimal proportion in your life. Also, positive people always give you a good piece of advice and feedback so that you can grow in life.
They have a different mindset about life to live life at its fullest. So, limit your boundaries for negative people and their negativity. This will help you to feed more positivity and less negativity to your mind.
- Stop comparing yourself with others:
If you are comparing yourself with others then that means you are feeding more negative thoughts to your mind. Whether it’s about your salary, looks, or some luxury, you will surely experience envy. And, envy leads to feeling bad about yourself.
Even a study published in Personality and Individual in 2018 found a direct connection between envy and how you feel about yourself. Moreover, it also leads to self-doubt.
So, try not to compare yourself with others as you will experience envy and also, you will doubt yourself. And, this leads to negative self-talk. Also, it lowers your self-esteem.
- Let go off your Past:
It is obvious that you may have encountered some bad experiences in your past. And, even now, you dwell around them which spoils your present also.
But the truth is you can’t change your past and keep dwelling around your past feeds negativity in your mind. Because you think of that negative situation and that’s why negative thoughts come into your mind.
See, ups and downs are obvious in life is normal and this is called life. You can compare it to the fact that what happens when the rhythm strip (heartbeat line) in the ECG monitor stops?
So, whenever some bad experience comes to your mind, twist your thoughts. Like you can say, “it had already happened and I can’t do anything about it now, it’s gone.” It will help you to get rid of negative thoughts and achieve inner peace. Take lessons from those experiences and move ahead in life.
- Gratitude Journal:
It is hard to avoid negative thoughts when you are going through some bad times or struggling for your career advancement. But, you can beat those negative thoughts with the help of gratitude journals.
Write down some good things for which you are grateful in life. This will help you feel the positivity that you already have in your life. Try doing this once in a while; it will help you to stay positive.
It is one of the best ways to feel good and stay positive in your life. Have you ever observed how your mood changes after exercise?
It is all because endorphins increase when you do exercises. And, these endorphins are feel-good hormones that boost your positive mood. And, with a positive mood, you will have good positive self-talk.
So, do regular exercises, it will also keep you fit and healthy.
- Set and Write your Goals:
Goal-setting gives your life an aim. And, writing them down makes them more real and helps you stick to them.
Write all your short-term and long-term goals on a proper and paste them in front of your working table. Also, put some reminders on your phone.
You can also make use of SMART goals as you can easily track your progress. As you will see timely progress which will help you to stay motivated and observe good stuff in your life.
That way, you will stay positive and will talk positive to yourself.
- Visualize your success:
Visualizing your success change the wiring of your brain. It helps you to know the feeling of success when you will actually achieve your goals. Yes, it may vary but still, it works because our body believes it when we visualize and imagine success.
It also clears your mind that your goals are real and achievable. That way, you can come out of your negative thoughts that lead to negative self-talk.
- Help Others:
Helping others can make you realize how easily you can positively impact others with your small gestures. And, there are very negligible chances of feeling sad when you are helping others.
Helping others doesn’t require much money or time. Like, you can feed a poor once a while (it hardly takes a few bucks), you can give a lift if somebody is asking for it. You can also feed some animals, compliment your mates for their efforts, or can even help your mother with household works.
These little things will make you realize that you can also light the world.
Positive Self-talk is possible but it will not happen overnight. It is possible only with your regular efforts.
Also, it will be a bit hard to start practicing these ways but you will get used to it with time. So, practice more and you will start seeing the results in some time.