Self Confidence means you believe yourself, you trust your abilities, skills, and decisions and you feel worthy of yourself in spite of your flaws.
With Self confidence, you take control of your life by living it on your principles. It helps you in achieving your life goals whatever the situation is.
In this article, we will learn what is self confidence? Why it is important? How to boost your confidence?
What is Self Confidence?
Being confident means you trust your abilities, skills, judgments, and decisions. Whether you are getting the desired results or not, still you have faith in your decisions and stick with them.
Self Confidence also helps you to take your weakness positively. You work on your weakness instead of hiding them. You feel worthy and value yourself, even if you are not doing well in life.
People often confuse self-confidence with self-esteem and self-efficacy, but they are different.
Why it is Important?
Self Confidence is important in every phase of life especially when you are feeling low and want to give up.
An article by New Delhi Times claims that Self Confidence is the biggest secret of success.
Self Confident people don’t fear failures. Instead, they learn from failures. They use failures as a step towards success instead of considering it as a setback. Self-confident people inspire confidence and trust in others (their audience, mates, family, or friends) also.
If you are confident and believe yourself, everyone admires you. But, if you don’t believe yourself and also not enough confident then how anybody else believes you?
A confident person faces the situation strongly and boldly and comes out positive even out of a negative situation. While a person who lacks confidence remains negative in every situation and fears his weakness or failures. They don’t even believe their skills, decisions, and abilities.
Confident people are always result-oriented while people lacking confidence remain stuck at the problem.
But, the best part is that you can build Self Confidence if practiced. Here are some golden ways to increase your Self Confidence and achieve more success in life.
15 Ways to throttle your Self Confidence
- Body Language
Harvard psychologist Amy Cuddy studied the positive effect of confident body posture. According to the study, a person with power body posture has a better overall performance than a low power body posture.
Keep your body relaxed, head upright, smile, make eye contact, use open hand gesture if presenting, and feel your confidence. A good body posture sends signals to the brain that boost your confidence.
So practice more of it.
- Stop Comparing Yourself:
When you compare yourself with somebody else whether it’s about your salary package, your looks, or anything else, you experience envy. And, the more envy you will experience, the more you will feel bad about yourself. Somewhere, it also devastates your confidence. Researchers stated this in studies.
Even in a study of 2018 published in Personality and Individual Difference found a direct connection between envy and the way you feel about yourself.
Also, comparing yourself is not healthy. So, whenever you find yourself doing this, remind yourself that it is not healthy for you and even it will erode your self confidence. Beware of it.
- Self Compassion
Practicing Self Compassion boosts your self confidence. Because you treat yourself with kindness and stay motivated and optimistic even when you encounter failure or made a mistake.
A study in 2009 published in the Journal of Personality found that practicing self-compassion contributes to your consistent confidence.
Failure is a part of success.
You must take it in a positive manner and also, learn a lesson from it and try not to repeat this.
But, scolding yourself over a mistake or failure will not correct your past mistakes. Even it will deteriorate your mental conditions and self-confidence.
So, try to be positive and be kind to yourself.
Thinking positively really helps you a lot to be more confident. Try converting your negative thoughts into positive ones. Like instead of thinking “how the task can go wrong”, think of all the ways it can be accomplished.
Try to replace you negative words with positive ones.
Shift your focus towards positivity because shifting your focus means you are changing your state of mind towards your goals. And that means you are going to change your life.
- Identify your Dreams and the Lifestyle you want
Not knowing your purpose of life is really a self-confidence drainer. When you don’t know what you want in life then how you will achieve it? How you will be confident about it?
Think about what type of lifestyle you want? How you want your life after 10 years? How you want everyone knows you?
Write down answers to these questions in a proper way. Then, go through them regularly especially before going to bed. It will help you to wake up more confident the next morning.
- Set SMART Goals
SMART goals are very helpful for our self confidence.
There are times when your target seems too daunting to you. And, chances are there that you start feeling a lack of confidence. In such a situation, setting SMART goals can help you in making your target a bit easy. Due to which you will feel confident.
- Growth Mindset
Mindset matters a lot in every aspect of your life. It really helps you in shaping your destiny. Different people have a different mindset and that’s why there are many aspects of a single situation. Your mindset can help you in gaining huge success in life. Also, your mindset can make you zero from the hero.
Say for an example:
You have a presentation and while presenting you made certain mistakes and that’s quite normal for humans.
But if you keep on criticizing yourself about the mistake, then instead of learning from it, you will erode your confidence. Instead, what you can do is you can learn a lesson from it and work upon your flaws. This will improve your skill and the next time you will be more confident about your presentation.
So, it’s high time, adopt a growth mindset. You can learn new things anytime. So, practice more, and build confidence.
- Over thinking
Overthinking is one of the biggest hurdles between you and your success because you think too much and do nothing.
No doubt, thinking is good before any task but up to a certain limit. But, after the limit, you are only making the situation scarier to you. And, this will make you procrastinate the task or you will give up.
So, stop overthinking, do some meditation, and begin doing. Have faith in yourself and take action. Keep your mindset as “I will face the consequences.”
See, situations whether good or bad are like different seasons in a year. They come and go, so don’t get entangled in them, they will pass away.
- Surround yourself with Right People
Here, I am not saying successful people only rather I am saying the right ones.
What I mean is the person who stays with you when you want to do something daunting, who motivates you, who tell you the right things, who says yes, you should at least give a try to this. They can be anybody; family, friends, teachers, or somebody else.
Because if people around you believe you and helps you in staying motivated, then you will have a positive environment around you. Hence, you will gain some confidence.
- Praise your Past Achievements
Keep in mind that you came alone in this world and you will go alone from here. Rude but truth!
So, why you seek others to praise your achievements?
Remember all your past achievements and praise yourself that you really work hard and accomplished these tasks yourself. And, I will continue doing this till my last breath.
This is a type of self motivation which boosts your confidence.
- Commit to Success
If you want to achieve something in your life, commit to it wholeheartedly.
Give everything it requires. Because once you are clear in your mind that you are going to achieve this, then nothing can stop you.
This somewhere helps you to be more confident about your goals. If you work for your goals with full dedication and determination then you will surely achieve this, if not today then tomorrow. Just stick to them.
- Break your bigger goals into smaller ones
Break your bigger goals into smaller ones, called short term goals, and start accomplishing them. Say instead of thinking I will complete mathematics today, go for two chapters first, and then move forward if you feel so.
In this manner, you will make a string of consistent completion of your goals. And, this will lighten a feel of accomplishment in you and you will be more confident about your goals.
- Stop Procrastinating
Stop Procrastinating, get up, and start doing the things you are trying to postpone. This will decrease the burden on your shoulders and you will be more relaxed and happy.
- Exercise Daily
Many studies proved that exercise not only keeps you physically fit but also mentally fit. It releases stress and relaxes your mind. Walk for 20-30 minutes daily or go to the gym or you can practice yoga also.
- Face your Fears
We all have fears but not all of us have the courage to face them. Some try to postpone them, some run away from them and certainly, we make them worse.
But once you start facing them, you will see that they are not as scary as you think. Facing your fears makes you more confident because you eliminate the undue stress from your life due to those fears.
Now you know that Self Confidence can be learned. And, practice makes a man perfect.
So, practice these above-mentioned ways more and more, you will be more confident. Believe yourself, have patience, and you will achieve your goals.