Self-Esteem is a strong term that is related to our happiness and confidence.
Some people confuse self-esteem with self-confidence. But these are two different terms. Self-confidence means you are confident about your talent and skills, it is external. Self-esteem is related to your inner beliefs.
It can be measured and is malleable depending on your life experiences.
What is Self-Esteem?
Self-esteem is self-confidence with happiness implied.
Self-esteem is a state of mind where you are comfortable with different perspectives and don’t find yourself trapped in comparisons.
High self-esteem is directly related to well being of a person i.e., mental and physical.
Why Self-Esteem is important?
Self-esteem is an important part of an individual’s personality. Let’s take a look at why self-esteem is important.
- To have a healthy relationship.
- For accepting your physical appearance, like your jawline, height, complexion, things that you cannot change.
- To accept that you deserve love and respect like anyone else.
- You are worthy of happiness and appreciation.
- To accept that you can need help, every individual needs another being for survival.
- You can make mistakes, no one is perfect.
- To have a progressive mindset with no place for insecurity from people around you.
- To have a healthy competition with a keen desire to learn.
Various studies had been performed on self-esteem. Why is it so?
The very simple answer is because it is directly related to our happiness.
According to a study, 85-90% of girls are not happy with their features. They worry about gaining an extra pound and a lot more. It is not only with girls, but boys are also facing the same situation.
It is a situation where one person is not happy with their own individuality.
Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. It is your perspective that how you evaluate yourself as an individual. No one is responsible for your high or low self-esteem except you.
Maya Angelou said, “The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.”
How to regain Self-Esteem?
To live a life with happiness, we need to have high self-esteem. You can regain self-esteem by imbibing the following qualities in your life.
Realize the difference between inner critic and self-realization.
Till the time you are evaluating yourself, it is self-realization. The moment you start finding everything negative about yourself, this is an inner critic. Stop the very moment you start thinking negative about you.
Nothing will kill you more than your own words. You have to change the pattern of your thoughts. Make it positive from negative.
August Wilson once said, “Confront the dark parts of yourself and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing.”
Your subconscious mind has a vital role to play in regaining your self-esteem. Practice positive thinking about yourself. What you think is what you get, that is how your subconscious mind works.
Self-love plays a major role in regaining your self-esteem. It teaches you to gain yourself worth.
According to William James, “The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.”
Learn some phrases to appreciate yourself. Like I am worthy of love, I deserve happiness, I deserve respect, I am beautiful, My smile is the reason for glowing spark on my face.
Our body language depicts a lot about us. Experts can tell so much about you from your body language.
Observe yourself carefully in front of the mirror that is standing so weak and dull with no enthusiasm, would you like to give your attention to him. If you think people are not interested in you and i.e., the reason behind your low self-esteem. Now you know where you are lacking.
Meet people with enthusiasm with body straight and your chin up. You will notice the change in your perspective about you. A rise in self-esteem will be depicted in your actions.
Maxwell Waltz once said, “Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.”
First impression is the lasting impression not the last.
So, if you have to look presentable according to the situation. And once you have the focus of the person or the client then show them your skills. The ball is in your court now.
Inner beauty when combines with outer beauty creates the magic.
Dress according to the event is must to avoid the out of place feeling.
Also, don’t relate dress smartly with brands. It is in fact how you carry yourself.
Empowering yourself directly adds a certain value to your individuality. If you can fulfill your basic needs on your own, it directly helps to increase your self-esteem.
In this modern era also, so many women face low self-esteem issues because they are dependent on their partners for the basic amenities in their life. And this is worse in rural areas because of the lack of education.
A relationship where you are supposed to find love, you cannot think of equality. And that adds to low self-esteem.
Many foundations are working to empower women, but still, a lot more efforts are needed in this sphere.
And empowerment here doesn’t mean you need a high profile job.
You can be a cook, can start your own YouTube channel sharing your recipes, you can give tuitions to kids that too at your home, if you have knowledge of stitching you can start your boutique.
Observe your skills where you are great and empower yourself.
It will provide you happiness and a feeling of contentment. It will help you to regain your self-esteem.
Also, you will see the difference in the attitude of people around you.
According to Alexander Graham Bell, ”Concentrate all your thoughts upon the work in hand. The sun’s rays do not burn until brought to a focus.”
To establish true self-esteem you must focus on your success and learn from failures and forget the negatives in your life. Self-esteem is about your worth in your eyes. Not everyone can be a celebrity, but you can if you want.